Take Folk Off The People Pedestals: They Don’t Have That Much Power Over You. Really, They Don’t! (Facts of Life Friday) 1

Take Folk Off The People Pedestals: They Don’t Have That Much Power Over You. Really, They Don’t! (Facts of Life Friday)
By Javinne J. McCoy Rant Switch ON! The very folk who you think have the power to make or break your unhappiness,  all while treating you like poo from the bottom of their shoes, will lose their power and deflate, when you tap into your own personal power.   It’s at this point you can ...

Chronic Avoiders: Let’s Pretend It Didn’t Happen When It Did 8

Chronic Avoiders: Let’s Pretend It Didn’t Happen When It Did
 By Javinne J. McCoy Throughout my former “career” in dealing with EUPs, Unavailables, Jerks, Narcs (Narcissists), in friendship context or romantic paring context, I have been absolutely fascinated by the level of avoidance, and downright denial of reality, these folk roll on through life with. If you’re a person that likes to deal in reality, ...

Blurred Lines: An Object Lesson in Relationship Boundaries from Paula Patton 2

Blurred Lines: An Object Lesson in Relationship Boundaries from Paula Patton
By Javinne J. McCoy I stated it in the last post and I must state it again- this time in bold, “Some relationships have a brief expiration date and some do not”. I cannot reiterate the importance of accepting this reality in your relationships (if you accept this truth you will be able to more ...

Talk is Cheap: It is Action That Speaks 11

Talk is Cheap: It is Action That Speaks
By Javinne J. McCoy If you have been reading the L.A. blog, chances are a desire to take a good look at your life, relationships, and what you need to do to improve these areas, brought you here. Remember the goal of L.A. is to shed light on the seductive trappings of emotionally unavailable situations/relationships ...

Love & Hip Hop Ex-Drama: Give Taking Your Ex Back a 2nd Thought (Rethink) 7

Love & Hip Hop Ex-Drama: Give Taking Your Ex Back a 2nd Thought (Rethink)
By Javinne J. McCoy As I have mentioned in earlier posts, I do have a few Reality TV “guilty pleasures” which I watch from time to time (for entertainment and to gain insights). The new season of Love & Hip Hop NY (Season 4) is now airing. I worked on the set of Love & ...